"The challenge many of us face is that we feel victimized by our childhood upbringing. We may have been mistreated or even abused by family members or other adults whom we trusted and looked up to. The emotional pain we suffer as children – the anger, the rejection, the guilt, the shame – can remain with us all of our lives unless we make a conscious effort to transform or transcend these memories and feelings." ~don Miguel Ruiz~
"To tell the story of one’s own life is to change that life as telling is an action that can revise one’s relationship to the past. By describing past painful events the speaker begins to move beyond them while not denying that they occurred and inflicted scars. Through this process the speaker confronts past difficulties in the company of another thus gaining greater distance from the trauma and moving toward an interpretive synthesis that can bring emotional relief. Psychological studies find the telling of traumatic experiences in repetitive fashion over time helps the speaker gain emotional and analytical control thereby decreasing the pain of the event in memory and yielding understanding that brings greater peace. As the teller repeats the story the traumatic tail becomes shorter and more succinct." ~Tiya Miles~
Forgiveness comes at last.
The actions never condoned,
But the actor finally released.
Thereby releasing the victim.
From the grips and depths.
Soul dug up and revived.
Replaced within the body,
the body now finally respected
and loved. The soul restored
to original form.
Self Esteem rehabilitated.
Self Will renewed.
How does one forgive,
the unforgivable.
By telling the story,
over and over:
To God,
To Ourselves,
And to Another Human Being.
and discovering that,
what was done to self by other
is not, nor ever has been, the responsibility
of self.
The Actor is Responsible for their Actions, period.
voilà
The Self is freed from responsibility of the actions done by
the other.
I have never, nor will ever be, responsible for what You do. I never owned your sins.
You do.
